Category: Divorce
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Grief and Starting Over
If you have experienced a loss of a loved one or a dear friend, allow A Light in Darkness: Stories of Grief and Loss to offer guidance and comfort. Perhaps you are struggling with grief and starting over after divorce has been difficult, upending your entire life. The first step to starting over is to grieve your… Read more
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Healing from Divorce
One of the best ways I have found to overcome any difficulty is to acknowledge the pain and name the emotion. I would say aloud: “Oh, that’s what grief feels like” and “Ah, hello sadness.” When I was healing from divorce, my difficulty came when I met my old life. Grief hung over me like… Read more
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Prayers for Divorce Healing
Tonight I had no words to pray, so I read the prayers of Hannah and David. If you are in need of prayers for divorce healing, or any kind of healing, you will find strength in reading the following prayers. Hannah, remember Hannah from the Old Testament? She was accused of being drunk in the temple. In… Read more
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Christian Divorce Resources: Part 1
Christian Resources: Books on Healing from Divorce After my divorce, I became a voracious reader. I scoured the internet for books on healing—not only books on how to heal from divorce but books on human triumph of any kind. It is Kaitlin Roig-DeBellis who so graciously says in Choosing Hope, “Pain is pain and sadness… Read more
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Letting Go of Baggage after Major Change
It’s the New Year: Releasing Emotional Baggage Along the Mediterranean in southern Italy on New Year’s Eve, we learn to let go to make room for something new. We do well to clean house and rid ourselves of unnecessary weight and baggage. Letting Go: An Italian Custom A New Year’s Eve tradition in southern Italy speaks… Read more
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Moving Forward after Divorce: 3 Changes to Make Today
Moving forward after divorce requires determination and precision focus on the goal. Here I write (and speak) about releasing crippling thoughts and bad moods that have taken root. Give it a try: replace negative thoughts with “whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely…” (Philippians 4:8, NIV).… Read more
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Divorce Advice (Part 2): Create Space
Divorce Advice #1: Create Space before Reacting Pause a moment. Take a deep breath. Let it go. Shake it off. Chill. No, really, take a moment. Trusted advisors and friends offered the best divorce advice in the early days of severing myself from my husband. My favorite piece of advice, however, comes from a quote… Read more
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Christian Divorce Advice (Part 1): Journaling
Christian Divorce Advice (Part 1): Spend Time Journaling Have you noticed the many voices clamoring to offer advice? During my divorce I was desperate for advice but often found advice lacking. So I looked to people who blazed the divorce trail. In Resilience: Hard-Won Wisdom for Living a Better Life, Eric Greitens writes, “Those who went before us… Read more
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Prayers for Divorce Healing
A Prayer for Relief after Divorce “Dear God,” I started. From there I wailed uncontrollably. I had no words. This was me my first few months after divorce. I lacked the language to pray. You see, my pain sat on me like a scavenger bird sat on its prey. Its massive talons gripped me with… Read more
